What is Borderline Personality Disorder?
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BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDERS
EXCERPT and REFERENCE for this Article:
"Stop Walking on Eggshells"
Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder ~ by Paul T. Mason, M.S. and Randi Kreger
What are Borderline Personality Disorders (BPD's)?
Is someone you care about causing you a great deal of discomfort and pain and you cannot figure out the cause? If so, read on . . .
Let us identify a few things . . .
Do you find yourself concealing your feelings and thoughts because you are afraid of the other person's reaction or because it really does not seem worth it to you to reveal something that may cause a fight or hurt feelings to follow?
Do you feel that anything that you say or do will be twisted against you? Are you blamed and criticized for anything and everything that is wrong in the relationship ~ even when it makes no logical sense?
Are you the FOCUS of intense, violent, and irrational rages
~ alternating with periods when the other person acts perfectly normal and loving? Does no one believe you when you explain what is going on?
Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or even lied to sometimes?
Do you feel like you are the victim of emotional blackmail?
Do you feel like the person you care about sees you as either all good or all bad, with nothing in between? Is there sometimes no rational reason for the switch?
Are you afraid to ask for things in the relationship because you will be told that you are too demanding or that there is something wrong with you? Are you told that your needs are not important?
Is the person always denigrating or denying your point of view?
Do you feel that their expectations of you are constantly changing, so you can never do anything right?
Are you accused of doing things you never did and saying things you never said? Do you feel misunderstood a great deal of the time, and when you try to explain, do you find that the other person does not believe you?
9) Are you constantly being put down?
When you try to leave the relationship, does the other person try to prevent you from leaving in a variety of ways (anything from declarations of LOVE and PROMISES to change to implicit or explicit threats)?
Do you have a hard time planning anything (social engagements, etc.) because of the other person's moodiness, impulsiveness, or unpredictability?
Do you make excuses for their behavior or try to convince yourself that everything is okay?
If any of these comments sound familiar, there is GOOD NEWS FOR YOU!
You are NOT
going crazy. Everything is NOT
your fault. And, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
These things may be happening because someone close to you has traits associated with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
TO LEARN MORE, READ . . . "Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul T. Mason, M.S. and Randi Kreger
BOOK SUGGESTION INFO:
"Stop Walking on Eggshells" ~ Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul T. Mason, M.S. and Randi Kreger
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder is a self-help guide that helps the family members and friends of individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) understand this self-destructive disorder and learn what they can do to cope with it and take care of themselves. It is designed to help them understand how the disorder affects their loved ones and recognize what they can do to get off the emotional roller coasters and take care of themselves.
ABOUT THE AUTHORS:
Paul T. Mason
is a Program Manager of Child/Adolescent Services and a Psychotherapist with Psychiatric Services for St. Luke's Hospital in Racine, Wisconsin. His research on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) has appeared in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, and he teaches seminars for mental health professionals on the effects of BPD on partners and family members.
is a professional writer and President of Kreger Marketing Group. Frustrated with lack of information about BPD and families, she initiated an internet discussions group and a site on the web for people who care about someone with borderline personality disorder.
Kreger is also the author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook.
THE Stop Walking on Eggshells WORKBOOK
by Randi Kreger
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